This year, I enter with a somewhat clear vision of who I am, what I need, and what work needs to be done. And so, I present to you my goals for this exciting, upcoming year!
Disclaimer, I fluctuate between right and left brain constantly, not knowing if I allow structure or passion to dictate my life. So some of these goals are measurable, while others remain fluid and intangible. For me, relationships have always dominated the path I take, for good or bad. This year, I'm determined to foster relationships of empowerment and stability and ditch those that drain me of my resources. Relationships I am describing include:
person-to-self, person-to-person, & person-to-environment.
1. Drink more water.
Maybe foundational, but it's one that takes conscious effort. Simple, but effective for mood, energy, focus, and overall well-being.... Let's see what happens.....
2. Read at least once a day.
Confession: I am a SLOW reader.
I flit between books, and bore easily when I finally sit down to read. I have trouble with comprehension and haven't read for enjoyment in years. I always seem to find much better things to do when I sit down....like sleep..... Well not this year! I'm making it a routine to read. Maybe for 10 minutes, but eventually that might just evolve into a habit....
3. Spend energy on/with things that bring you more energy.
Seems like an obvious one, but much much easier said than done! For this, I mean eliminating taxing relationships and tasks for ones that ignite my spirit. For example, watching mindless tv might feel great in the moment, but often leads to hours wasted. Or could be a quick pick me up after a long grueling birth. Nothing is set in stone. A conversation with a friend can be beneficial, but can sometimes feel like a chore. In the moment, I am going to resolution to guide me. The goal being-invest in tasks that make your future manageable and happier.
4. Return phone calls, texts, and emails promptly!
I am great for clients when I'm on call! Not so great at day to day communication, leading to back-logged communication and planning conflicts. Quick responses are appreciated. I can do better!
5. Prune "stuff"
Simply put, it is dead weight. And if it can't be found quickly, it's not worth it! My classroom was always super-organized as I lived by this principle. My personal life could use a dose of it too..... Although, I will always make room for my beloved Stitch Fix addiction.....
6. Self-care is a necessity, not a luxury.
Treat myself like a client. I don't need to justify a good night of sleep, or a massage. These are things that allow me to thrive, live well, and therefore do my job better. Simple as that.
7. Visit family more.
I have a lot of them, and they are only growing by the day. I have wonderful family, nearby and far away. They make me laugh, cry, and go crazy, but they are mine and they pretty awesome. Extended family included.
8. Say no when things aren't a good fit, or no longer have value or space.
Evolve with the times. Value to me, has always resided in relationships with others. These don't fit forever. It's okay to make space for new opportunities, just as long as your priorities remain intact.
9. Write "Thank you" notes often.
I owe my success to a wealth of individuals, and the more I seem to reflect on it, the more I notice it in the future. So what if it's the same people again and again. They still deserve acknowledgement for the difference that they have made in your life.
10. Love is a two-way street. Keep it balanced.
I have a habit of loving the wrong people. You know, dropping my own responsibilities to help people who would be very unlikely to do the same for me...? And then because of this, being unavailable to help those who treat me like gold. In a world where "You get what you give", I just need to make sure I'm giving it to the people who value what I have to offer.
And that's a wrap! No money-saving, calorie-counting, gym-going crazy talk, just me, hopefully making better decisions in 2018 that lead to a stream-lined life rich with people and experiences that make me feel fulfilled.